Boys do cry......

Well this was my Gtalk status for today and it got few comments from people on my contact list and some of them do wanted to know what happened? why this status?

I really thought a lot about writing this post in a way that I won't have to touch what happened but after thinking a lot the voice within me told me that you need not hide it from your blog.

So , yes I cried today in the morning(ok it wasn't like tears were flowing from my eyes just that my eyes got wet and its not that a rare phenomenon since last year) while sitting in the office bus (I generally sit alone so don't worry I din't embarass myself and generally people hardly notice me :) ) but why ? thats all together a different post. And seeing the urge to write (this happens to be the 6th post and the 4th published post I am writing today. and I skipped my guitar class to write this) I might write that too.

Ok coming to that status. Generally my morning happens this way. Sitting in the bus , when the bus hits the expressway, I close the book I am reading and close my eyes and then start dreaming (I try hard to sleep but due to some apparent reasons I can't, so its generally day dreaming). And then the thoughts I am pondering upon lead to some statement or quote and that becomes my status for the day.

So today as my eyes were wet , a statement which till last few years used to bother me because of my lack of crying, sprang into my mind "Boys don't cry" and immediately another voice rebelled saying "Boys do cry" and a series of incidents flashed into my mind.

Ok one sign that I generally associate with maturity is not being able to shed tears(I mean constant flow of tears from your eyes) and this has disturbed me a lot in past and I somehow accepted it as an ill effect of "getting mature" but ever since my Masi died and tears rolled down my eyes I somehow thought that its not that true.

So coming to the statement and incidents , yes we boys do cry. One of my contact commented that "Yes boys cry ..in loneliness" but I said "Not only then, I have seen people(I mean boys) cry even in front of their friends".

So the incidents that flashed in my mind starts from way back when I was in school. One of my friend who was quite Macho in his attitude cried in front of us on hearing that one of our close friend's father had died. I was sad and I cried too at home but I still remember the image of my that other friend(the macho one) crying while discussing it with us. I know it was indeed a very sad incident but I just couldn't imagine him at that time crying in front of everyone.

The next incident was that of Veeru Dada , who happens to be quite an emotional guy . He cried twice,many times more, but these two were significant. First one was when he cried while talking to one of our friend(girl and she was just friend and married now :) ) and I don't remember why but he told me later that he did and then again when we cancelled a party at his house after he had already arranged everything . Ok it wasn't a childish cry of why you guys cancelled it, it was more out of the circumstances in which it was cancelled. And after that many times in private either just in front of me or our close friends.

Then came an incident when I cried while still being in college, owing to a comment made by one of my friends about me and another friend and when all the involved people came to know that it made me cry , they all cried. :)

Then on the last day of our college , Mr Chocolaty cried and since that was the life-changing day of my life(the day after which my life changed for both good and bad), I couldn't sympathise with him and I just laughed. But had it been one of my normal day I would have cried too.

Next was when Mr NRI cried in the SRS parking lot(forgive me if I goofed up the order), he just got so frustrated with the way everything was going on in his life and he just couldn't hold back his tears. We all hugged him and consoled him.

Another incident was when we went to our village as my grand mother has died (One more of an incident which strengthen my then believe of boys don't cry as tears din't flow) and sitting there while my Dad was talking to my Pishi (Father's sister), I for the first time saw my Dad cry. Again I used to think when I was a kid that My Dad don't cry because he is mature. But that day I saw him cry for his mother.

All these incidents strengthens the fact that boys do cry and its definitely good to cry at times and as Dev says that it helps to clean your eyes too :)

I can see myself and my friends crying on a very emotional occasion, both happy and sad and I don't think anyone of us will try to hold our tears back then. And believe me crying do help a lot :)

PS: I am fine now so no need to worry :)

Hit by Recession...

The whole world since last few months have been hit by grave economic recession which has rendered so many people jobless, have shutdown so many factories, even forced people to kill themselves and their families. Anyways I am not going to write about that in this post although last week I had a direct impact of that at my work place...but anyways.

This recession is the recession of the hair line...Although I should have written about this when this thing was brought to our group’s notice by Mr NRI, but at that time it was more of something that amused me than causing any unwanted concern.

When guys are growing up, actually have never heard from any of the girl about this, so I am not generalizing it for both the sexes, so I was saying that when guys are growing up they generally worry about having a girlfriend which according to me, as I have understood now with age, is more of a desire to have a companion with whom you can share yourself, which again for me can be refined as something independent of the sex of the person, I mean now I feel that the companion can be a guy or a girl but just someone close and now since we all are on the verge of completing our silver jubilee in this world and most of us are either still Single and Available or in some cases Single and (Un)Available so that factor of concern has lost some of its desperation. So as pointed by Mr NRI, we have a new concern for this age that is concern for our receding hair line.

When he came to India last Diwali, he was always spotted wearing a cap. So after some successful persuasion we were able to see what lied beneath that and to my astonishment all the free flowing long strands of hair that he used to sport in college was now replaced by a growth of tiny hairs which resembled a freshly mowed lawn.
Initially we thought that as he has become half Chinki, so he is sporting a hairstyle like those people but then with a heavy heart he told us that the water of abroad has not suited him and because of that he is having a very rapid hair loss. Each day he is scared to look at the bathroom floor after having a bath as instead of water the whole floor gets covered with his hair. He has been losing sleep over that and had been asking people who once sported long hair to get some remedy. This all amused me , as I thought what’s the big deal. Anyways its hereditary in my family, so anyhow I am going to be bald like my Dad and my uncles, so it didn’t concern me much. But I always knew that Mr NRI will be over cautious about such things. It was quite amusing to see him literally count the hair of every male friend he met and it was fun to see him give a sigh of relieve saying “Iske mujhse kam hai :)”.

So he decided that before going back he will see a Hair specialist and will get some medicine. He also decided to get bald before he leaves, so that he can grow it from start :) and will also be able to find the spots which have become barren, so that he can treat those areas.

So every time we met, he used to wear a cap, even when he cooked dinner for all of us so that none of his hairs can make their way to the delicious food they cooked for us. Even Innocent Devil shared his experience about hair loss, which was very evident at last holi when these guys smeared his scalp with colours. He shared the info from the doctor he met, what remedies he mentioned etc. Even Chuck Norris mentioned about the treatment he is undergoing. He told us to use a mild shampoo everyday and not to apply oil.

Overall it was an entertaining experience for me to see them change with age :)

Now I think the next area of concern for them is marriage. Already all of them are fighting not to be the first among the group to get married. And hopefully one of them will succumb to pressure :)